Rude, Mean, or Bullying?

        Rude, Mean, or Bullying? 
   Rude = Inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else. 
Incidents of rudeness are usually spontaneous, unplanned inconsideration, based on thoughtlessness, poor manners or narcissism, but not meant to actually hurt someone. 

   Mean = Purposefully saying or doing something that to hurt someone once (or maybe twice). 
The main distinction between "rude" and "mean" behavior has to do with intention; while rudeness is often unintentional, mean behavior very much aims to hurt or depreciate someone. 

   Bullying = Purposefully saying or doing something aggressive to hurt someone, repeated over time, that involves an imbalance of power. 
Bullying entails three key elements: an intent to harm, a power imbalance, and repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior. Kids who bully say or do something intentionally hurtful to others and they keep doing it, with no sense of regret or remorse-- even when targets of bullying show or express their hurt or tell the aggressors to stop. 

How do I talk to my child about these?
1. Ask them if they know which each word means. Define it to them at their level. Give examples. 
2. Role Play. Have them practice being each one and how to respond to each one. 
3. Read books about it: Billy Bully, Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon, You're Mean, Lily Jean!, The Recess Queen, etc. After reading the books, talk about each character and how that made the other characters feel. Talk about how they would want to feel and how they want others to feel.